Don’t be mean. Seriously. Don’t be mean. Don’t be rude, don’t be condescending, don’t be incendiary.
If you need specifics...
Don’t trash other people. -isms aren’t sexy. Don’t be disrespectful of real people’s real lives. Men, women, queer, straight, asexual, cis, trans, monogamous, polyamorous, parents, childfree, professional, bohemian, able-bodied, disabled... they’re all reading. None of them want to see slurs referring to them in your prompts.
Don’t trash other kinks. Even in jest. For the people who enjoy whatever you’re trashing or calling disgusting and deviant, it’s not funny.
Don’t offer critiques unless they’re asked for. This is not the forum for constructive criticism. You are free to not like that policy, but it is the policy. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
On the other hand...
Leave feedback You don’t have to say every fill is the best thing you’ve ever read if you don’t mean it. But if you read something and you did like it, it’s very nice to leave a note for the author. The authors get nothing for their work - not even name recognition in most cases - except for the warm fuzzy of knowing that someone, somewhere, likes their fill.
This goes double if you requested a fill. Even if you don’t like the fill you got, you can at least thank the author for their work.
If you have a paid LiveJournal account, you can register for alerts to your prompts. Then when there’s a response (either a question, a comment or a fill) you’ll get an email. If you don’t have a paid LJ account, you can make yourself a little bookmark folder for your prompts. Check them every so often, even once they’re months old. Authors do fill old prompts.
Do prompt for what you do like. Trashing popular pairings or kinks falls under “Don’t be mean,” above. Don’t be mean - be creative about getting what you do want to see.
I expect just about every anon on here has something that they roll their eyes about. Don’t be mean - just ignore those prompts and fills and focus on the ones you do like.
Before you prompt, do check the delicious archive. If the exact thing you’ve requested has already been requested in the last month, please wait for a month to pass before requesting it again.
If the exact thing you’ve requested has been filled once or many times in the past (but not in the past month), it would help to come up with a slightly different spin on it. If the existing fills don’t scratch your itch, figure out what would, and request that.
Don’t be mean. It bears repeating. Even if someone is mean to you first, don’t be mean. Contact a moderator (the ‘skyrim_kink’ ID - use the FAQ thread or a private message) and report the meanness. Getting into ugly fights just spreads the drama around. People can be wrong on the Internet. Moderators can delete them. Let that work for you.
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timeasmymeasure
How to Be a Civil and Well-Mannered Kink Meme Pervert
Date: 2011-10-26 12:48 am (UTC)Seriously. Don’t be mean. Don’t be rude, don’t be condescending, don’t be incendiary.
If you need specifics...
Don’t trash other people.
-isms aren’t sexy. Don’t be disrespectful of real people’s real lives. Men, women, queer, straight, asexual, cis, trans, monogamous, polyamorous, parents, childfree, professional, bohemian, able-bodied, disabled... they’re all reading. None of them want to see slurs referring to them in your prompts.
Don’t trash other kinks.
Even in jest. For the people who enjoy whatever you’re trashing or calling disgusting and deviant, it’s not funny.
Don’t offer critiques unless they’re asked for.
This is not the forum for constructive criticism. You are free to not like that policy, but it is the policy. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
On the other hand...
Leave feedback
You don’t have to say every fill is the best thing you’ve ever read if you don’t mean it. But if you read something and you did like it, it’s very nice to leave a note for the author. The authors get nothing for their work - not even name recognition in most cases - except for the warm fuzzy of knowing that someone, somewhere, likes their fill.
This goes double if you requested a fill.
Even if you don’t like the fill you got, you can at least thank the author for their work.
If you have a paid LiveJournal account, you can register for alerts to your prompts. Then when there’s a response (either a question, a comment or a fill) you’ll get an email. If you don’t have a paid LJ account, you can make yourself a little bookmark folder for your prompts. Check them every so often, even once they’re months old. Authors do fill old prompts.
Do prompt for what you do like.
Trashing popular pairings or kinks falls under “Don’t be mean,” above. Don’t be mean - be creative about getting what you do want to see.
I expect just about every anon on here has something that they roll their eyes about. Don’t be mean - just ignore those prompts and fills and focus on the ones you do like.
Before you prompt, do check the delicious archive.
If the exact thing you’ve requested has already been requested in the last month, please wait for a month to pass before requesting it again.
If the exact thing you’ve requested has been filled once or many times in the past (but not in the past month), it would help to come up with a slightly different spin on it. If the existing fills don’t scratch your itch, figure out what would, and request that.
Don’t be mean.
It bears repeating. Even if someone is mean to you first, don’t be mean. Contact a moderator (the ‘skyrim_kink’ ID - use the FAQ thread or a private message) and report the meanness. Getting into ugly fights just spreads the drama around. People can be wrong on the Internet. Moderators can delete them. Let that work for you.